New and strange feelings can be hard to describe. But if you think you might be slipping into the baby blues, postpartum depression, or anxiety, don’t suffer by yourself. It’s important to try and tell someone you know and trust. They can share honest observations about your mood or behavior, help you figure out what’s going on, find healthy options to start feeling better, or simply lend an ear. Here are a few prompts that might help you bring up what’s on your mind.

Ask other moms.

“When you had your baby, did you ever feel…?” or

“I’m starting to wonder if I should be worried about how I’m feeling…”

Level with your partner, sibling, or best friend.

“I know you already think I’m weird sometimes, but in all honesty, have I been doing anything lately that stands out as totally not me?”

Write it down.

“There are a few things that have felt off about me lately, and it was easier for me to write them down [or text] to share.”

Mention it to your doctor.

“Something isn’t right, and I could use some help feeling better.”